depressed about l&c

scruffy · May 22nd, 2009, 23:58

Do any of you guys ever think "why me?" I try to be accepting of this fetish, taking an attitude of "different strokes for different folks", but I can't help feeling somewhat hopeless sometimes.

agentdowell · May 23rd, 2009, 00:43

It's seems difficult to to accept but I like it. Not sure what you're getting at.

winniethebeer · May 23rd, 2009, 02:07

Im too obsessed about lift and carry to stop and think "why me?".

rickishi · May 23rd, 2009, 03:31

nothing to feel bad about it , it is jus that we have another thing which makes us happy

we are actually more fortunate , apart from sex ,this is another which gives us a high

shanu · May 23rd, 2009, 10:04

Problem arises when some folks start liking it more than sex...I have heard that from some folks...

Dombazz · May 23rd, 2009, 10:18

Luckily I'm not obsessed of lift/carry, it's just that I like it...in some way it turns me on...

nautilus · May 23rd, 2009, 16:37

Quote:

Originally Posted by shanu

Problem arises when some folks start liking it more than sex...I have heard that from some folks...

that not a good sign IMO

Slevin · May 26th, 2009, 03:53

Quote:

Originally Posted by scruffy

Do any of you guys ever think "why me?" I try to be accepting of this fetish, taking an attitude of "different strokes for different folks", but I can't help feeling somewhat hopeless sometimes.

Try some Celexa or Lexapro

filmguy · May 26th, 2009, 06:55

What's there to be depressed about, really?

Is it an usual fetish? Sure.

But think about it this way. There are people in there who are into pedophilia, beastiality, bloodplay... at least you're (hopefully) not one of them.

Storm · May 29th, 2009, 23:05

Ok, lets look at this.
You are in a situation which is stressful with the regards to the break up.
What will happen is that you will automaticaly, as a survival instinct, look to what makes you feel good.
Just remember, you are lucky it isnt chocolate!
If you can take a step back for a moment, look back at the situation you are in from a seperate standpoint, notice that you are looking for something which gives you that "feel good" then you might find the "need" drops away a little.
I am not suggesting you will lose it but it should reduce. It is a normal reaction in most stressful situations and if you are depressed then this will be polarised.
Some of the other points raised about fetish addiction are a seperate issue - although still very valid and good issues to raise.
Make a list of all the things you have to do in order to move forward and focus on that - it is a pattern inerrupt which will help.

May 22nd, 2009, 23:58	#1
scruffy STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 56 : 0 For This Post 72 Total	depressed about l&c Do any of you guys ever think "why me?" I try to be accepting of this fetish, taking an attitude of "different strokes for different folks", but I can't help feeling somewhat hopeless sometimes. Last edited by scruffy; May 23rd, 2009 at 00:00. Reason: rewording

May 29th, 2009, 23:05	#10
Storm STANDARD Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK Posts: 108 : 0 For This Post 27 Total	Ok, lets look at this. You are in a situation which is stressful with the regards to the break up. What will happen is that you will automaticaly, as a survival instinct, look to what makes you feel good. Just remember, you are lucky it isnt chocolate! If you can take a step back for a moment, look back at the situation you are in from a seperate standpoint, notice that you are looking for something which gives you that "feel good" then you might find the "need" drops away a little. I am not suggesting you will lose it but it should reduce. It is a normal reaction in most stressful situations and if you are depressed then this will be polarised. Some of the other points raised about fetish addiction are a seperate issue - although still very valid and good issues to raise. Make a list of all the things you have to do in order to move forward and focus on that - it is a pattern inerrupt which will help. __________________ The Amazon Storm - onwards and upwards Your strong diva and pain in the arse www.sessiongirls.com/storm

May 23rd, 2009, 00:43	#2
agentdowell STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 129 : 0 For This Post 5 Total	It's seems difficult to to accept but I like it. Not sure what you're getting at.

May 23rd, 2009, 02:07	#3
winniethebeer VIP Honored Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,233 : 0 For This Post 8,811 Total	Im too obsessed about lift and carry to stop and think "why me?".

May 23rd, 2009, 03:31	#4
rickishi VIP Indian VIP 3 Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: india Posts: 654 : 1 For This Post 893 Total	nothing to feel bad about it , it is jus that we have another thing which makes us happy we are actually more fortunate , apart from sex ,this is another which gives us a high

May 23rd, 2009, 10:04	#5
shanu VIPOS Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: India Posts: 265 : 0 For This Post 518 Total	Problem arises when some folks start liking it more than sex...I have heard that from some folks...

May 23rd, 2009, 10:18	#6
Dombazz STANDARD Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Eu Posts: 249 : 0 For This Post 40 Total	Luckily I'm not obsessed of lift/carry, it's just that I like it...in some way it turns me on...

May 26th, 2009, 06:55	#9
filmguy STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 71 : 0 For This Post 57 Total	What's there to be depressed about, really? Is it an usual fetish? Sure. But think about it this way. There are people in there who are into pedophilia, beastiality, bloodplay... at least you're (hopefully) not one of them.