delete my account please.

takeitorleaveit · July 30th, 2009, 03:25

i would like the admins to delete my account and permanently block me. i realize that my l&c fetish is something that i will always have, but i cannot let it consume me. it will be fetish that i will share with my future wife, who i know will love and accept me for it. over the past few months i have realized that this fetish can consume and individual. when i get my own life together (i don't mean financially or socially either, i mean come to terms with who i am), i know i will come back to terms with this fetish...but in a different way.

i've been a member of this particular community since it's virtual inception and feel that this is a group of nothing more than self loathing people. i used to deny that i had a problem, but i do. i'm not running from my fetish that i have been given, but simply taking control of it. i want to wish well to all the people that i have had the privilege to talk to over the years. we are all a unique group of people who share a unique idea. there is nothing wrong with that, but i don't want to let it define me personally.

i don't really think i ever made any real friends through here, but i wish all of you the best in your own personal lives regardless. this is probably one of the hardest things ive ever had to do considering i worked so hard to get to vip***, but please delete my account admins. i wont let my fetish define or consume my life. i give my respect and well wishes to all of you.

takeitorleaveit (chris)

tjw1971 · July 30th, 2009, 03:53

Still, please don't group all of us into "self loathing people". I'm certainly not in that category. My life may be a little more stressful and busy than I'd like, but I'm generally ok with it. I realize I have my "quirks" and the L&C fetish is one of them ... but I see no problem with that either.

Actually, I think younger women are getting more and more likely to work out for "strength" vs. just "toning", so all of this will get a little more "mainstream" one of these days.....

Dombazz · July 30th, 2009, 12:29

I think you could keep your account open, so that you can visit everytime you feel for it, becasue here it's always someone you can talk with about this fetish here.

But you do as you want, and I hope you find your perfect wife.

Take care, //Dombazz

dendrin · July 30th, 2009, 14:59

It seems you're set on this so I won't try to talk you out of it. We have always enjoyed your direct style of banter here, but will help you do whats best for you. Unless I here otherwise will disable the account in a day.

Liftluvver · July 30th, 2009, 15:02

"Self-loathing?" Speak for yourself, takeitorleaveit. I think you're doing the right thing for yourself though. I did that a couple of years ago, before re-joining with a new persoective, not so totally immersed in this fetish.

Good luck with finding yourself, too!

Leobor · July 30th, 2009, 16:26

I had those pauses too. In last couple of months I have a feeling I will do it once again. Anyway, over the past time I think LC weakens at me. I remember forst time I saw LC photo on net I got myself wet (if you know what I am mean), but now - it is not a case. Maybe I am getting more mature and maybe LC will die at me over the time (I am not saying the others which still have it are not mature).

Take care Chris!

tragmich · July 30th, 2009, 20:12

The passion for l&c never dies. If you already as a child or a young teenager noticed that watching a woman lifting up another human beeing made you feel aroused, then you are stuck with it.

raymond · July 30th, 2009, 21:16

Don't project, dude. Just because you are having personal problems doesn't mean we are all in the same boat. People have fetishes. Some may be more normal than the other but my fetish- which is fun thing for me- is a very very small part of me and that's how it should be. You can't let your interests or fetish consume yourself - makes no difference whether you are obsessed with baseball or lift-carry. One, more thing - I hate to play internet shrink but your problem may very well be self-control more than anything. Why else would you want to have your account deleted so as to stop yourself from visiting this board? If it's self-control, deleting this account isn't likely to work. Just my 0.02

nosurprises · July 30th, 2009, 23:37

i have to do the same decision immadiately before it's too late...
i have pretty good looking and nice g/f, i'm socially strong guy but... i have to give it up too... at least i have to give up checking it through internet everyday or 2-3 times a day...

well done takeitorleaveit... congrats...

The Lifted One · July 31st, 2009, 06:39

I know I'm not self loathing. Everybody has their kink, it's just a matter of keeping perspective. On the surface, I'm about as normal as it gets, and I don't spend my days jumping on women's backs or jerking off to images of cradle carries.

I'm comfortable with myself and this fetish, but I definitely don't let the world in on it. Just like I don't let the world in on private conversations I have with friends and family about life. This is just something that arouses me. For some people, it's feet. For others, it's porn. For others, it's playing video games. It's all about keeping it in perspective. I'd even go as far as being in a Lift and Carry video, and it STILL wouldn't consume my life. I've got too much other fun stuff going on. Variety is the spice of life.

I don't think deleting your account is going to stop you from getting on the internet and checking this stuff out. I've been looking at this kind of thing for years, yet I just came to this forum, so the forum obviously isn't the only outlet.

July 30th, 2009, 03:25	#1
takeitorleaveit VIP Honored Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: California, US Posts: 132 : 0 For This Post 169 Total	delete my account please. i would like the admins to delete my account and permanently block me. i realize that my l&c fetish is something that i will always have, but i cannot let it consume me. it will be fetish that i will share with my future wife, who i know will love and accept me for it. over the past few months i have realized that this fetish can consume and individual. when i get my own life together (i don't mean financially or socially either, i mean come to terms with who i am), i know i will come back to terms with this fetish...but in a different way. i've been a member of this particular community since it's virtual inception and feel that this is a group of nothing more than self loathing people. i used to deny that i had a problem, but i do. i'm not running from my fetish that i have been given, but simply taking control of it. i want to wish well to all the people that i have had the privilege to talk to over the years. we are all a unique group of people who share a unique idea. there is nothing wrong with that, but i don't want to let it define me personally. i don't really think i ever made any real friends through here, but i wish all of you the best in your own personal lives regardless. this is probably one of the hardest things ive ever had to do considering i worked so hard to get to vip***, but please delete my account admins. i wont let my fetish define or consume my life. i give my respect and well wishes to all of you. takeitorleaveit (chris)

July 30th, 2009, 03:53	#2
tjw1971 VIP Honored Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 259 : 0 For This Post 466 Total	I gotta respect that, but .... Still, please don't group all of us into "self loathing people". I'm certainly not in that category. My life may be a little more stressful and busy than I'd like, but I'm generally ok with it. I realize I have my "quirks" and the L&C fetish is one of them ... but I see no problem with that either. Actually, I think younger women are getting more and more likely to work out for "strength" vs. just "toning", so all of this will get a little more "mainstream" one of these days.....

July 30th, 2009, 16:26	#6
Leobor VIP Honored Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Serbia Posts: 853 : 0 For This Post 1,765 Total	I had those pauses too. In last couple of months I have a feeling I will do it once again. Anyway, over the past time I think LC weakens at me. I remember forst time I saw LC photo on net I got myself wet (if you know what I am mean), but now - it is not a case. Maybe I am getting more mature and maybe LC will die at me over the time (I am not saying the others which still have it are not mature). Take care Chris! __________________ Girls are made to be m(c)arried.

July 30th, 2009, 12:29	#3
Dombazz STANDARD Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Eu Posts: 249 : 0 For This Post 40 Total	I think you could keep your account open, so that you can visit everytime you feel for it, becasue here it's always someone you can talk with about this fetish here. But you do as you want, and I hope you find your perfect wife. Take care, //Dombazz

July 30th, 2009, 14:59	#4
dendrin Administrator Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 4,004 : 0 For This Post 11,025 Total	It seems you're set on this so I won't try to talk you out of it. We have always enjoyed your direct style of banter here, but will help you do whats best for you. Unless I here otherwise will disable the account in a day.

July 30th, 2009, 15:02	#5
Liftluvver STANDARD Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 287 : 0 For This Post 62 Total	"Self-loathing?" Speak for yourself, takeitorleaveit. I think you're doing the right thing for yourself though. I did that a couple of years ago, before re-joining with a new persoective, not so totally immersed in this fetish. Good luck with finding yourself, too!

July 30th, 2009, 20:12	#7
tragmich Administrator Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 2,672 : 0 For This Post 9,056 Total	The passion for l&c never dies. If you already as a child or a young teenager noticed that watching a woman lifting up another human beeing made you feel aroused, then you are stuck with it.

July 30th, 2009, 21:16	#8
raymond VIP Honored Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 311 : 0 For This Post 1,460 Total	Don't project, dude. Just because you are having personal problems doesn't mean we are all in the same boat. People have fetishes. Some may be more normal than the other but my fetish- which is fun thing for me- is a very very small part of me and that's how it should be. You can't let your interests or fetish consume yourself - makes no difference whether you are obsessed with baseball or lift-carry. One, more thing - I hate to play internet shrink but your problem may very well be self-control more than anything. Why else would you want to have your account deleted so as to stop yourself from visiting this board? If it's self-control, deleting this account isn't likely to work. Just my 0.02

July 30th, 2009, 23:37	#9
nosurprises Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 75 : 0 For This Post 123 Total	i have to do the same decision immadiately before it's too late... i have pretty good looking and nice g/f, i'm socially strong guy but... i have to give it up too... at least i have to give up checking it through internet everyday or 2-3 times a day... well done takeitorleaveit... congrats...

July 31st, 2009, 06:39	#10
The Lifted One STANDARD Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 58 : 0 For This Post 6 Total	I know I'm not self loathing. Everybody has their kink, it's just a matter of keeping perspective. On the surface, I'm about as normal as it gets, and I don't spend my days jumping on women's backs or jerking off to images of cradle carries. I'm comfortable with myself and this fetish, but I definitely don't let the world in on it. Just like I don't let the world in on private conversations I have with friends and family about life. This is just something that arouses me. For some people, it's feet. For others, it's porn. For others, it's playing video games. It's all about keeping it in perspective. I'd even go as far as being in a Lift and Carry video, and it STILL wouldn't consume my life. I've got too much other fun stuff going on. Variety is the spice of life. I don't think deleting your account is going to stop you from getting on the internet and checking this stuff out. I've been looking at this kind of thing for years, yet I just came to this forum, so the forum obviously isn't the only outlet.