depressed about l&c
 

Do any of you guys ever think "why me?" I try to be accepting of this fetish, taking an attitude of "different strokes for different folks", but I can't help feeling somewhat hopeless sometimes. :(

It's seems difficult to to accept but I like it. Not sure what you're getting at.

Im too obsessed about lift and carry to stop and think "why me?".:thumbup2::whistle::laugh:

nothing to feel bad about it , it is jus that we have another thing which makes us happy :D we are actually more fortunate , apart from sex ,this is another which gives us a high

Problem arises when some folks start liking it more than sex...I have heard that from some folks...

Luckily I'm not obsessed of lift/carry, it's just that I like it...in some way it turns me on...:wub:

that not a good sign IMO

@nautilus: yep. That is not a good sign. Infact looking at it from another angle, there are many people which find lift carry a bigger turn on than the female body(even n*de). In my opinion, even that is pretty bad, because that would mean to have real good sex(to get turned on) u need lift carry. :|

Interesting as I was thinking about that too lately. It seems this fetish becomes weaker and weaker every day at me, and it is being represed by female body interest (and its most interesting part). Are we all infants a little bit waiting for geting mature?

Hmm... Dunno.

I get very depressed sometimes. Especially these days, as I am going through a bad break up. A few thoughts:

- a fetish was technically defined as something without which one can NOT get turned on at all. This has evolved now, of course, but it is worth thinking about. Do you need L&C or is it just a nice plus?

- I get depressed because sometimes I find myself needing it. Not always, but it always enhances the experience. And sometimes it needs to salvage the experience, if you know what I mean.

- I do wish I did not have this fetish. Not when I am enjoying it, but at other times when I feel it takes away from what some might call a "normal" lifestyle.

- I had a huge fight with my ex GF when another guy picked her up for a picture. For me, that is a sexual experience, for her it was just a photograph! It was part of our break-up!

I have analysed it at several levels, and even suspect I know how it all began (3rd grade, I picked up a girl I liked when another guy dared me... she moved away later and I never forgot her!). My conclusion has always been that I need to exercise self-control. Perhaps this is an addiction? Or is it a part of what makes me?

The answer, for me, would be whether the roots of this are genetic or not. Clearly I am choosing women based on a subconscious criterion involving l&c (I always go for petite, light women because I like MF lifting).

Anyway, sorry for the long response. It is something I have given a lot of thought, and not something that I have completely accepted about myself.