Although us having this similar interest,( but in different ways and different reasons)I will speak for myself.
My opinion
It is really difficult to generalize any sort of people and associate them with certain personality traits for feelings.
In life everyone gets depressed for this reason or that at sometime of other. some have people have more problems then others or different ones.This bodes for all types of people. every non lifting carrying fans have issues in their lives so "self loathing" is not trait that is necessarily just tied in with lift and carry but of course some feel this way and i understand.
we have people as part of our community that have I am sure substance abuse issues . depression and so on. but guess what! so do all demographics;
all types of people. and that is what lift and carry fans are people. subjected to the everyday stress,s and also feeling the happiness of life.
I am not saying of that this interest can cause some to feel depressed of some self loathing. however sometimes if you take a look at your life. you might find there are other reasons for self loathing or not liking your life the way it is. to address the creator of this thread. true I am not in your shoes. but is sounds like when you broke up due to your girl friend lifting another guy. lift and carry might have not been the main cause.rather just jealousy on your part of infidelity on her part. something is wrong somewhere but if it were a kiss it or as a member stated a close hug it might have resulted in the same outcome.
I am not invalidating some of the real issues lift and carry on its own can create. as some were expressed well on here. but
where am i going with this.
cultures my be different and people may have different interests and many issues they day with in life. but that is all people and isn't that what lift and carry fans are . just people. like everyone else.
my opinion.
I agree with phoneman the term "r*pe" should never be applied to lift and carry.. r*pe is illegal and immoral and you will go to jail for it. lift and carry or domination by consent is different. in other words r*pe is r8pe and lift and carry is lift and carry. such a word should not be used so lightly.
PS. what i really have to be depressed about is my spelling and bad jokes
carrychris