I have to agree with Susannah as I can see her entire point from the perspective of being a 5'4 man, and I think there is a certain similarity between short men and tall women in that they're not common. And she's especially right that height doesn't matter in bed.
If a girl wants to hit on me, reminding me that I'm short is the first thing that'll turn me off (unless she's telling me she finds short guys attractive). No short man likes being reminded that he looks less manly than most others. It's hard enough that everybody seems to looks down at you constantly - and because you're small, they treat you with less respect because they don't fear you (not to mention, if you're short most girls don't find you attractive).
In contrast, the same is probably true for tall women. They realize that most guys don't want to date someone taller - just as most women don't want to date guys who are shorter. The former because it's intimidating, and the latter because women typically want to look up to their man instead of down at him - might have something to do with the whole "being protected" thing.
I definitely understand the intimidation in men dating taller women - mostly that you're constantly being looked down at, and secondly that no matter where you go, everybody who looks at you instantly makes both of you feel awkward. You feel like everybody is talking about you behind your back all the time.
While tall girls are inherently not my type, I have gone after a few. I met the girls while sitting down and just getting to know them socially. When you're sitting down, you're at eye level which gets rid of the height problem - good tip to remember, don't you think?
As most girls claim that personality is the main thing - if you charm her while sitting down, she's likely not going to care how tall you are when you stand up. And if she does care, then no matter what, you had no chance to begin with, so move on instead of moping that another girl rejected you.
I think confidence is just showing the girl you're not afraid of her in the slightest - not afraid of rejection, not afraid of not meeting her expectations, and not afraid of her height. If you can acquire that attitude (getting laid will do that), then theoretically you should be good. Even if you get rejected, confidence makes you not even care usually.
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