depressed about l&c

nautilus · May 23rd, 2009, 16:37

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Originally Posted by shanu

Problem arises when some folks start liking it more than sex...I have heard that from some folks...

that not a good sign IMO

shanu · May 23rd, 2009, 19:39

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Originally Posted by nautilus

that not a good sign IMO

@nautilus: yep. That is not a good sign. Infact looking at it from another angle, there are many people which find lift carry a bigger turn on than the female body(even n*de). In my opinion, even that is pretty bad, because that would mean to have real good sex(to get turned on) u need lift carry. :|

Leobor · May 23rd, 2009, 21:49

Interesting as I was thinking about that too lately. It seems this fetish becomes weaker and weaker every day at me, and it is being represed by female body interest (and its most interesting part). Are we all infants a little bit waiting for geting mature?

Hmm... Dunno.

toadpimp · May 24th, 2009, 01:04

I get very depressed sometimes. Especially these days, as I am going through a bad break up. A few thoughts:

- a fetish was technically defined as something without which one can NOT get turned on at all. This has evolved now, of course, but it is worth thinking about. Do you need L&C or is it just a nice plus?

- I get depressed because sometimes I find myself needing it. Not always, but it always enhances the experience. And sometimes it needs to salvage the experience, if you know what I mean.

- I do wish I did not have this fetish. Not when I am enjoying it, but at other times when I feel it takes away from what some might call a "normal" lifestyle.

- I had a huge fight with my ex GF when another guy picked her up for a picture. For me, that is a sexual experience, for her it was just a photograph! It was part of our break-up!

I have analysed it at several levels, and even suspect I know how it all began (3rd grade, I picked up a girl I liked when another guy dared me... she moved away later and I never forgot her!). My conclusion has always been that I need to exercise self-control. Perhaps this is an addiction? Or is it a part of what makes me?

The answer, for me, would be whether the roots of this are genetic or not. Clearly I am choosing women based on a subconscious criterion involving l&c (I always go for petite, light women because I like MF lifting).

Anyway, sorry for the long response. It is something I have given a lot of thought, and not something that I have completely accepted about myself.

angst56 · May 24th, 2009, 01:38

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Originally Posted by toadpimp

I have analysed it at several levels, and even suspect I know how it all began (3rd grade, I picked up a girl I liked when another guy dared me... she moved away later and I never forgot her!). My conclusion has always been that I need to exercise self-control. Perhaps this is an addiction? Or is it a part of what makes me?

I say it could go either way. If it starts to negatively affect your life, then I say it would be an addiction.

For me, I'm not depressed about it. The only thing I get depressed about at times is that I really have not had many lifts, but I am not depressed about having it as a fetish. At times I used to always wonder "why me"? Other times I thought that it would eventually go away, but every time I tried to shut it out, it always came back. Guess I've just accepted it.

Leobor · May 24th, 2009, 08:08

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Originally Posted by toadpimp

- I had a huge fight with my ex GF when another guy picked her up for a picture. For me, that is a sexual experience, for her it was just a photograph! It was part of our break-up!

Hell, I would do it too! And every other guy which doesnt have that fetish. Of course, maybe they would make A HUGE fight but still it just isnt normal for a friend to pick his female friend up unless he has some "pretensions". It is just like pecking or too close hugging. It is not true that you chose girls by the terms of LC - you just like small girls. And I say that as I like tall girls the most (and MF lifting, maybe a little bit too much

). It is simple like for any other fellow which doesnt have any other fetish - you have some type of girls you like more and thats it.

Eron · May 31st, 2009, 19:03

When I see a sexy girl walking on the street, the first thing I say to myself is "would love to jump on her back" .Maybe I am obsessed with this fetish, but I love it.I think it must not be a reason for being depressed,even if you need it to "get turned on".
It would be a problem ONLY if you think it's a problem and you(or others) suffer from it.

I know about what i am saying to you, I was depressed because of this some years ago.When I was about 15,I thought I was the only person in the world with this "interest" and thought every time of being lifted by girls I liked.I never asked them to, and today I am 24 and never been lifted.My shiness makes sure that I will never tell a girl about this fetish until I realize she really loves me, and I am sure that ,when this happens, we will help each other to be sexually happy.That is the idea every one who is suffering from l&c should have in his mind.
Don't be depressed,we are not hurting anybody with this.

(sorry for my English if mistakes)

winniethebeer · June 1st, 2009, 02:19

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Originally Posted by Eron

When I see a sexy girl walking on the street, the first thing I say to myself is "would love to jump on her back" .Maybe I am obsessed with this fetish, but I love it.

tinkuthewimp · June 26th, 2009, 06:35

well i cant call it depressing but its really addictive, i am really addicted to it and daily spend a lot of time looking for videos and pics of lift and carry ,sometimes i do get frustrated as till date i have not been able to get a real lift and possibly i will never be able to get one , but anyways it is a real nice fetish

fairyplant77 · July 5th, 2009, 22:12

I don't know if I get depressed about it... maybe mildly depressed at most. Though I do often ask, "Why me?" I certainly do feel odd about it... I feel like I can't tell anyone because it's far to weird/embarrassing.

Also, I am very attracted to muscular/athletic girls... so much so that I can't really be myself around them. This is rather problematic.

I am thinking about getting some phone counseling... which is a bit more anonymous than regular counseling. This guy looks promising: http://www.healingforthesoul.org/

Thanks for posting. It's good to know that I'm not the only person who struggles with this.

May 23rd, 2009, 21:49	#3
Leobor VIP Honored Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Serbia Posts: 860 : 0 For This Post 1,808 Total	Interesting as I was thinking about that too lately. It seems this fetish becomes weaker and weaker every day at me, and it is being represed by female body interest (and its most interesting part). Are we all infants a little bit waiting for geting mature? Hmm... Dunno. __________________ Girls are made to be m(c)arried. Last edited by Leobor; May 23rd, 2009 at 22:57. Reason: bad spelling (no, not tori)

May 31st, 2009, 19:03	#7
Eron VIP Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 110 : 1 For This Post 149 Total	When I see a sexy girl walking on the street, the first thing I say to myself is "would love to jump on her back" .Maybe I am obsessed with this fetish, but I love it.I think it must not be a reason for being depressed,even if you need it to "get turned on". It would be a problem ONLY if you think it's a problem and you(or others) suffer from it. I know about what i am saying to you, I was depressed because of this some years ago.When I was about 15,I thought I was the only person in the world with this "interest" and thought every time of being lifted by girls I liked.I never asked them to, and today I am 24 and never been lifted.My shiness makes sure that I will never tell a girl about this fetish until I realize she really loves me, and I am sure that ,when this happens, we will help each other to be sexually happy.That is the idea every one who is suffering from l&c should have in his mind. Don't be depressed,we are not hurting anybody with this. (sorry for my English if mistakes) Last edited by Eron; May 31st, 2009 at 19:07.

May 24th, 2009, 01:04	#4
toadpimp STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 62 : 0 For This Post 26 Total	I get very depressed sometimes. Especially these days, as I am going through a bad break up. A few thoughts: - a fetish was technically defined as something without which one can NOT get turned on at all. This has evolved now, of course, but it is worth thinking about. Do you need L&C or is it just a nice plus? - I get depressed because sometimes I find myself needing it. Not always, but it always enhances the experience. And sometimes it needs to salvage the experience, if you know what I mean. - I do wish I did not have this fetish. Not when I am enjoying it, but at other times when I feel it takes away from what some might call a "normal" lifestyle. - I had a huge fight with my ex GF when another guy picked her up for a picture. For me, that is a sexual experience, for her it was just a photograph! It was part of our break-up! I have analysed it at several levels, and even suspect I know how it all began (3rd grade, I picked up a girl I liked when another guy dared me... she moved away later and I never forgot her!). My conclusion has always been that I need to exercise self-control. Perhaps this is an addiction? Or is it a part of what makes me? The answer, for me, would be whether the roots of this are genetic or not. Clearly I am choosing women based on a subconscious criterion involving l&c (I always go for petite, light women because I like MF lifting). Anyway, sorry for the long response. It is something I have given a lot of thought, and not something that I have completely accepted about myself.

June 26th, 2009, 06:35	#9
tinkuthewimp STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 62 : 0 For This Post 84 Total	well i cant call it depressing but its really addictive, i am really addicted to it and daily spend a lot of time looking for videos and pics of lift and carry ,sometimes i do get frustrated as till date i have not been able to get a real lift and possibly i will never be able to get one , but anyways it is a real nice fetish

July 5th, 2009, 22:12	#10
fairyplant77 STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 31 : 0 For This Post 10 Total	I don't know if I get depressed about it... maybe mildly depressed at most. Though I do often ask, "Why me?" I certainly do feel odd about it... I feel like I can't tell anyone because it's far to weird/embarrassing. Also, I am very attracted to muscular/athletic girls... so much so that I can't really be myself around them. This is rather problematic. I am thinking about getting some phone counseling... which is a bit more anonymous than regular counseling. This guy looks promising: http://www.healingforthesoul.org/ Thanks for posting. It's good to know that I'm not the only person who struggles with this.