Need some advice

green01 · June 3rd, 2017, 02:05

I have just posted this in L&C discussions, but then realised there were more people in this page, so re-posting, admin feel free to delete one of the threads!

Hi guys,

Unfortunately it has got to the point where this fetish is affecting my life. I ended my last relationship because I was sneaking behind her back getting lifts from people, and felt guilty (I made excuses to myself why I was breaking up with her at the time, but looking back this was the reason.) It has also got to the point where I struggle to go through more than a few days (at most) without master bating to lift and carry material.

I have tried to get over this through will power alone, but it hasn't worked, so wondering if any of you have been through something similar or could offer some advice!

A little background on me, i'm 23, and generally doing pretty well in life apart from this. I have just graduated from college with 2 degrees and 2 minors, considering doing a masters, whilst playing a high level of semi-pro football/soccer. I tend to do pretty well with girls, but i've been blowing a lot of girls off recently because of the ex mentioned above.

Sorry to be a downer on this great site! Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

June 3rd, 2017, 03:09

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Originally Posted by green01

I have just posted this in L&C discussions, but then realised there were more people in this page, so re-posting, admin feel free to delete one of the threads!

Hi guys,

Unfortunately it has got to the point where this fetish is affecting my life. I ended my last relationship because I was sneaking behind her back getting lifts from people, and felt guilty (I made excuses to myself why I was breaking up with her at the time, but looking back this was the reason.) It has also got to the point where I struggle to go through more than a few days (at most) without master bating to lift and carry material.

I have tried to get over this through will power alone, but it hasn't worked, so wondering if any of you have been through something similar or could offer some advice!

A little background on me, i'm 23, and generally doing pretty well in life apart from this. I have just graduated from college with 2 degrees and 2 minors, considering doing a masters, whilst playing a high level of semi-pro football/soccer. I tend to do pretty well with girls, but i've been blowing a lot of girls off recently because of the ex mentioned above.

Sorry to be a downer on this great site! Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

You need not worry about it. We all have gone through this in our life. Do not try to overcome this fetish as it will not work. If you like it then so be it. There are other things in life and lift and carry is one of those. Just keep enjoying this fetish as you enjoy other things in life.

green01 · June 3rd, 2017, 03:17

thanks for your comment! but i definitely feel this is something that is negatively affecting my life, and whilst maybe i don't want to completely stop enjoying it, i definitely need some help getting it under control!

piggybackrides · June 3rd, 2017, 03:39

Did you tell your last gf about your fetish? If you did then maybe you'd feel less guilty about getting sessions. And besides, getting sessions or meeting girls to get lifts isn't cheating on your gf or anything unless your sleeping with em too.

As for the second part you'd probs be doing that every few days or so to porn or other material if you didn't have this fetish so you shouldn't be too concerned about it.

green01 · June 3rd, 2017, 04:02

no i didn't tell her, which might have helped...

I'm not sure she would have felt that way about it haha, and as i was getting off to the memories later i feel it was

thats true, however its become something i think about every day, and i am having to really try not to masterbate multiple times a day to it, which is obviously unhealthy.. I've also noticed its affecting me when i go back with girls after nights out etc.

piggybackrides · June 3rd, 2017, 04:09

Honestly I'm in a similar position to you, except I don't play semi-pro football and am a senior in university still. But yea I'm thinking about it way to much as the years go by.
But the having sessions while having a gf thing never bothered me b/c it isn't cheating on her or anything.

Slevin · June 5th, 2017, 05:36

This is who you are. Embrace it. Get as many lifts as you can while you're that young, because the opportunities become less with age.

TheWolfe · June 6th, 2017, 04:30

Does any of this ring a bell?

https://www.addiction.com/addiction-...addiction-101/

Lana · June 22nd, 2017, 12:50

Thanks a lot guys for your posts. They are so informative and helped me too.

machiaveli81 · July 9th, 2017, 13:54

No need to worry about it. You will not automatically become a porn addict from having this desire. Embrace it and get lots of lifts!

June 3rd, 2017, 02:05	#1
green01 Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2015 Posts: 24 : 0 For This Post 68 Total	Need some advice I have just posted this in L&C discussions, but then realised there were more people in this page, so re-posting, admin feel free to delete one of the threads! Hi guys, Unfortunately it has got to the point where this fetish is affecting my life. I ended my last relationship because I was sneaking behind her back getting lifts from people, and felt guilty (I made excuses to myself why I was breaking up with her at the time, but looking back this was the reason.) It has also got to the point where I struggle to go through more than a few days (at most) without master bating to lift and carry material. I have tried to get over this through will power alone, but it hasn't worked, so wondering if any of you have been through something similar or could offer some advice! A little background on me, i'm 23, and generally doing pretty well in life apart from this. I have just graduated from college with 2 degrees and 2 minors, considering doing a masters, whilst playing a high level of semi-pro football/soccer. I tend to do pretty well with girls, but i've been blowing a lot of girls off recently because of the ex mentioned above. Sorry to be a downer on this great site! Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

June 3rd, 2017, 03:17	#3
green01 Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2015 Posts: 24 : 0 For This Post 68 Total	thanks for your comment! but i definitely feel this is something that is negatively affecting my life, and whilst maybe i don't want to completely stop enjoying it, i definitely need some help getting it under control!

June 3rd, 2017, 03:39	#4
piggybackrides VIP Honored Join Date: Jul 2015 Posts: 334 : 0 For This Post 828 Total	Did you tell your last gf about your fetish? If you did then maybe you'd feel less guilty about getting sessions. And besides, getting sessions or meeting girls to get lifts isn't cheating on your gf or anything unless your sleeping with em too. As for the second part you'd probs be doing that every few days or so to porn or other material if you didn't have this fetish so you shouldn't be too concerned about it.

June 3rd, 2017, 04:02	#5
green01 Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2015 Posts: 24 : 0 For This Post 68 Total	no i didn't tell her, which might have helped... I'm not sure she would have felt that way about it haha, and as i was getting off to the memories later i feel it was thats true, however its become something i think about every day, and i am having to really try not to masterbate multiple times a day to it, which is obviously unhealthy.. I've also noticed its affecting me when i go back with girls after nights out etc.

June 3rd, 2017, 04:09	#6
piggybackrides VIP Honored Join Date: Jul 2015 Posts: 334 : 0 For This Post 828 Total	Honestly I'm in a similar position to you, except I don't play semi-pro football and am a senior in university still. But yea I'm thinking about it way to much as the years go by. But the having sessions while having a gf thing never bothered me b/c it isn't cheating on her or anything.

June 5th, 2017, 05:36	#7
Slevin VIP Honored Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: The United States of America Posts: 618 : 1 For This Post 580 Total	This is who you are. Embrace it. Get as many lifts as you can while you're that young, because the opportunities become less with age.

June 6th, 2017, 04:30	#8
TheWolfe VIPOS Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: USA Posts: 1,642 : 0 For This Post 3,314 Total	Does any of this ring a bell? https://www.addiction.com/addiction-...addiction-101/

June 22nd, 2017, 12:50	#9
Lana Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2017 Posts: 2 : 0 For This Post 0 Total	Thanks a lot guys for your posts. They are so informative and helped me too.

July 9th, 2017, 13:54	#10
machiaveli81 STANDARD Join Date: Sep 2016 Posts: 18 : 0 For This Post 2 Total	No need to worry about it. You will not automatically become a porn addict from having this desire. Embrace it and get lots of lifts!