Telling your girl about lift and carry

Cynical · September 20th, 2021, 22:25

To be honest it really is up to you on wether you want to confess or not. If you feel as if its something you have to let our then go ahead maybe they’ll be turned on by it as well. I personally enjoy carrying women due to having their body become my property. A lot of them have found it very attractive as well feeling horny/in false distress.

derrtderr · September 24th, 2021, 06:46

I don’t waste time on women that aren’t at least casually interested in being the sexually dominant partner anymore. I’m up front about my attraction to physically strong women right out the gate. They usually want a little explanation and I just say something like: “I like women that can pick me up and throw me around a little.” If we’ve been flirting and vibing already, it’s usually fine. I try to seek out athletic women in the first place and if I get a negative reaction I just bail and go looking for someone else. There’s plenty of women out there willing to pick me up I’ve found.

phoneman · September 25th, 2021, 20:37

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Originally Posted by derrtderr

I don’t waste time on women that aren’t at least casually interested in being the sexually dominant partner anymore. I’m up front about my attraction to physically strong women right out the gate. They usually want a little explanation and I just say something like: “I like women that can pick me up and throw me around a little.” If we’ve been flirting and vibing already, it’s usually fine. I try to seek out athletic women in the first place and if I get a negative reaction I just bail and go looking for someone else. There’s plenty of women out there willing to pick me up I’ve found.

Simple honest approach since it is no longer taboo for women to be strong. Good for you.

tjw1971 · September 26th, 2021, 05:14

The problem I've had more and more in recent years is finding women who used to be pretty strong and have no issues with the whole lift and carry thing as an interest. But they tell me they can't do things like that anymore due to an injury.

I guess that's the problem with L&C, more than with a lot of other fetish type interests people might have. It has certain physical requirements and by the time people are over, say, 40-ish years old, they can't always do what they used to do.

You can find exceptions out there, obviously. But I even met people like a former bodybuilder in Florida who is no longer doing any lifting at all because of bad knees and I think a neck problem. (She's currently a huge Star Wars fan and is all into attending conventions for it and collecting items from the movies.) And again, she wasn't that old ... It's just that weightlifting kind of tore her body up.

There's even a lady I'm supposed to meet up with tomorrow at a dinner gathering ... old friend of a friend kind of thing. I met this girl a LONG time ago and forgot all about her. But it turns out she's been a single mom for years and her kid is about ready to move out of her house, so now she's interested in the dating scene. My friend told me this lady was "really strong and has muscles", so that definitely piqued my interest! Unfortunately, I just found out she messed up her shoulder last year and can't lift much at all with that arm now. Won't even have enough days off saved up from her work to get the surgery done on it until probably next year.

So I guess the moral of the story here is, get your L&C in with the 20 and 30-somethings, while they're still at their peak strength potential.

derrtderr · September 26th, 2021, 06:34

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Originally Posted by phoneman

Simple honest approach since it is no longer taboo for women to be strong. Good for you.

Cheers

Don’t get me wrong: I still meet plenty of women with a “men are supposed to be stronger” kinda attitude. I just move past that. Ain’t nobody got time for that noise.

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The problem I've had more and more …

I’ve met loads of open minded and strong forty somethings. They’re usually less insecure as well so more likely to embrace their dominant amazon.

Lifted321 · January 20th, 2022, 23:49

I have a gf, and she realized that I love lift and carry, because I always lift and fuck her, but she doesnt know that I also love being lifted. Anyways I havent told her yet, because im pretty sure she will find it pretty strange

greystreets · January 28th, 2022, 06:01

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Originally Posted by Lifted321

I have a gf, and she realized that I love lift and carry, because I always lift and fuck her, but she doesnt know that I also love being lifted. Anyways I havent told her yet, because im pretty sure she will find it pretty strange

Go for it - maybe she has a special kink she would like to share as well. In fact, you can start the conversation by asking her that question.

Or you can playfully suggest she try to carry you next time you lift her.

Brekky · March 26th, 2022, 09:05

I'd just be open and honest about it. Especially if indulging in lift and carry is something you want out of your relationship. It's not really a taboo kink, so worst case scenario is generally your partner will let you know they're not into it.

LifedBoy · April 21st, 2022, 06:24

I just told my ex-girlfriend and my current girlfriend that I like being lifted. They both were really open about it.
They just started lifting me up a couple of times. I think its important, not to be agressive about it. Just give be honest. I think that if your partner loves you, she/he will help you with your needs.

September 20th, 2021, 22:25	#1
Cynical STANDARD Join Date: Sep 2021 Location: Denver Posts: 9 : 2 For This Post 8 Total	Confessing fetishes To be honest it really is up to you on wether you want to confess or not. If you feel as if its something you have to let our then go ahead maybe they’ll be turned on by it as well. I personally enjoy carrying women due to having their body become my property. A lot of them have found it very attractive as well feeling horny/in false distress.

September 26th, 2021, 05:14	#4
tjw1971 VIP Honored Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 260 : 0 For This Post 471 Total	Biggest problem I've had? The problem I've had more and more in recent years is finding women who used to be pretty strong and have no issues with the whole lift and carry thing as an interest. But they tell me they can't do things like that anymore due to an injury. I guess that's the problem with L&C, more than with a lot of other fetish type interests people might have. It has certain physical requirements and by the time people are over, say, 40-ish years old, they can't always do what they used to do. You can find exceptions out there, obviously. But I even met people like a former bodybuilder in Florida who is no longer doing any lifting at all because of bad knees and I think a neck problem. (She's currently a huge Star Wars fan and is all into attending conventions for it and collecting items from the movies.) And again, she wasn't that old ... It's just that weightlifting kind of tore her body up. There's even a lady I'm supposed to meet up with tomorrow at a dinner gathering ... old friend of a friend kind of thing. I met this girl a LONG time ago and forgot all about her. But it turns out she's been a single mom for years and her kid is about ready to move out of her house, so now she's interested in the dating scene. My friend told me this lady was "really strong and has muscles", so that definitely piqued my interest! Unfortunately, I just found out she messed up her shoulder last year and can't lift much at all with that arm now. Won't even have enough days off saved up from her work to get the surgery done on it until probably next year. So I guess the moral of the story here is, get your L&C in with the 20 and 30-somethings, while they're still at their peak strength potential.

September 24th, 2021, 06:46	#2
derrtderr STANDARD Join Date: Sep 2021 Posts: 15 : 1 For This Post 31 Total	I don’t waste time on women that aren’t at least casually interested in being the sexually dominant partner anymore. I’m up front about my attraction to physically strong women right out the gate. They usually want a little explanation and I just say something like: “I like women that can pick me up and throw me around a little.” If we’ve been flirting and vibing already, it’s usually fine. I try to seek out athletic women in the first place and if I get a negative reaction I just bail and go looking for someone else. There’s plenty of women out there willing to pick me up I’ve found.

January 20th, 2022, 23:49	#6
Lifted321 STANDARD Join Date: Jan 2022 Posts: 7 : 0 For This Post 5 Total	I have a gf, and she realized that I love lift and carry, because I always lift and fuck her, but she doesnt know that I also love being lifted. Anyways I havent told her yet, because im pretty sure she will find it pretty strange

March 26th, 2022, 09:05	#8
Brekky STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2022 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 8 : 0 For This Post 2 Total	I'd just be open and honest about it. Especially if indulging in lift and carry is something you want out of your relationship. It's not really a taboo kink, so worst case scenario is generally your partner will let you know they're not into it.

April 21st, 2022, 06:24	#9
LifedBoy STANDARD Join Date: Oct 2021 Location: Germany Posts: 11 : 0 For This Post 28 Total	I just told my ex-girlfriend and my current girlfriend that I like being lifted. They both were really open about it. They just started lifting me up a couple of times. I think its important, not to be agressive about it. Just give be honest. I think that if your partner loves you, she/he will help you with your needs.