Have you ever talked about your fetish to a loved one?

[adik5378]

i have been married since 4 years about 2 years ago i started lap sitting on my wife while having foreplay it seems to become my regular foreplay and we both are enjoying the same she has huge leg muscles and she goes to gym but irregular she is almost my weight looking forward to trying new things with her

[jackie04]

no i have not, i think if we really were able to share our desires with our loved ones or other people in general we wouldn't be in the internet searching for it in websites, i think this is why these kind of websites and forums exists, so everyone can share what he like without been judged by anyone, so yeah, i haven't and as i read from the posts here most of people don't share that to others

[tender]

Yes i have, my partner is understanding

[Fit]

Yes - it hasn't worked out well.

My wife used to periodically let me in a half piggy back where i'd put my arms around her shoulders from behind and she would thrust herself ford racing me off the floor, then walk around a bit.

Then I told her of my fetish and that being carried by her turns me on. Since then she has front lifted me before sex 3 or 4 times, but now totally refuses to engage in this.

She says it turns her off. I do understand that what she feels matters,however I also feel aside shes given then taken away. We still have sex but OMG that sex prior to her refusing was off the chart. Shes 30kg lighter than me but incredibly strong. Not sure how to deal with the situation.

[ramygenad]

Yes, and she was like " i will never be with someone like u" and our relationship is over

[upandaway]

Originally Posted by ramygenad

Yes, and she was like " i will never be with someone like u" and our relationship is over

that sucks man! sorry to hear that, you should try being more clever about it in the future, make it into a fun challenge or game, let her competitive side come out and lead the way, so to speak; don't be completely honest at first, that way you won't put them off by coming on too strong

[upandaway]

Originally Posted by iHop

No, I have not.
I have other fetishes that I indulge in with my girlfriend.
This one however is not one I plan on sharing.

me neither, it usually doesn't go well; honesty doesn't appear to be the best policy when it comes to this fetish

are you going to try to get lifts from her anyway by beating around the bush, so to speak? do you have other plans in mind, like getting carried by a friend instead?

[lapsitting2020]

Originally Posted by ramygenad

Yes, and she was like " i will never be with someone like u" and our relationship is over

That's really sad but totally expected. I think the problem is that while there is an emphasis on "gender equality" in society, for most people there's still no recognition that many men also want to be loved in affectionate/nurturing ways. Men don't always want to be the
I think there is now some acceptance for men wanting to be the little spoon or being held etc. Hopefully, someday the lift and carry idea will become pretty mainstream.

Until then, I do think it's important to find a woman who is kind-hearted and nurturing. Many women just want to make their man happy, and it's also an ego thing. My wife, for instance, had no idea about this when we met, but she is totally into lifting me now and holding me in her lap too. It's a pride thing for her too. Flattering for her to feel that I shared this secret with her, and that I get so turned on when she holds me like that.