Getting treatment for the L&C fetish

aloknath · July 11th, 2011, 13:49

There's a distinction between a paraphilia and a fetish though.

When you have a fetish it's a more secondary thing. It's something that turns you on, enhances your sexual experiences without co-opting it.

A paraphilia is something that totally replaces your desire for 'normal' sex. Like if you can't have sex without an L&C element being present, that would be a paraphilia. And this is very likely to adversely affect your life in terms of relationships and sexual performance. You'd have to be very very very lucky indeed to find a partner who has the same paraphilia!

tallgirlfan · August 21st, 2011, 10:04

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Originally Posted by ashok

A paraphilia is something that totally replaces your desire for 'normal' sex. Like if you can't have sex without an L&C element being present, that would be a paraphilia. And this is very likely to adversely affect your life in terms of relationships and sexual performance. You'd have to be very very very lucky indeed to find a partner who has the same paraphilia!

Sometimes fetishes or paraphilia can be dangerous things especially since you mention: "something that totally replaces your desire for 'normal' sex." Something like that might make your partner uncomfortable.

Fetishes can also be fickle things sometimes you feel drawn towards a certain fetish and other times you don't even like that fetish anymore

Some people have many fetishes and they cycle through them.

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aloknath VIPOS Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 855 : 3 For This Post 450 Total	There's a distinction between a paraphilia and a fetish though. When you have a fetish it's a more secondary thing. It's something that turns you on, enhances your sexual experiences without co-opting it. A paraphilia is something that totally replaces your desire for 'normal' sex. Like if you can't have sex without an L&C element being present, that would be a paraphilia. And this is very likely to adversely affect your life in terms of relationships and sexual performance. You'd have to be very very very lucky indeed to find a partner who has the same paraphilia!