depressed about l&c

toadpimp · May 24th, 2009, 01:04

I get very depressed sometimes. Especially these days, as I am going through a bad break up. A few thoughts:

- a fetish was technically defined as something without which one can NOT get turned on at all. This has evolved now, of course, but it is worth thinking about. Do you need L&C or is it just a nice plus?

- I get depressed because sometimes I find myself needing it. Not always, but it always enhances the experience. And sometimes it needs to salvage the experience, if you know what I mean.

- I do wish I did not have this fetish. Not when I am enjoying it, but at other times when I feel it takes away from what some might call a "normal" lifestyle.

- I had a huge fight with my ex GF when another guy picked her up for a picture. For me, that is a sexual experience, for her it was just a photograph! It was part of our break-up!

I have analysed it at several levels, and even suspect I know how it all began (3rd grade, I picked up a girl I liked when another guy dared me... she moved away later and I never forgot her!). My conclusion has always been that I need to exercise self-control. Perhaps this is an addiction? Or is it a part of what makes me?

The answer, for me, would be whether the roots of this are genetic or not. Clearly I am choosing women based on a subconscious criterion involving l&c (I always go for petite, light women because I like MF lifting).

Anyway, sorry for the long response. It is something I have given a lot of thought, and not something that I have completely accepted about myself.

angst56 · May 24th, 2009, 01:38

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Originally Posted by toadpimp

I have analysed it at several levels, and even suspect I know how it all began (3rd grade, I picked up a girl I liked when another guy dared me... she moved away later and I never forgot her!). My conclusion has always been that I need to exercise self-control. Perhaps this is an addiction? Or is it a part of what makes me?

I say it could go either way. If it starts to negatively affect your life, then I say it would be an addiction.

For me, I'm not depressed about it. The only thing I get depressed about at times is that I really have not had many lifts, but I am not depressed about having it as a fetish. At times I used to always wonder "why me"? Other times I thought that it would eventually go away, but every time I tried to shut it out, it always came back. Guess I've just accepted it.

Leobor · May 24th, 2009, 08:08

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Originally Posted by toadpimp

- I had a huge fight with my ex GF when another guy picked her up for a picture. For me, that is a sexual experience, for her it was just a photograph! It was part of our break-up!

Hell, I would do it too! And every other guy which doesnt have that fetish. Of course, maybe they would make A HUGE fight but still it just isnt normal for a friend to pick his female friend up unless he has some "pretensions". It is just like pecking or too close hugging. It is not true that you chose girls by the terms of LC - you just like small girls. And I say that as I like tall girls the most (and MF lifting, maybe a little bit too much

). It is simple like for any other fellow which doesnt have any other fetish - you have some type of girls you like more and thats it.

Eron · May 31st, 2009, 19:03

When I see a sexy girl walking on the street, the first thing I say to myself is "would love to jump on her back" .Maybe I am obsessed with this fetish, but I love it.I think it must not be a reason for being depressed,even if you need it to "get turned on".
It would be a problem ONLY if you think it's a problem and you(or others) suffer from it.

I know about what i am saying to you, I was depressed because of this some years ago.When I was about 15,I thought I was the only person in the world with this "interest" and thought every time of being lifted by girls I liked.I never asked them to, and today I am 24 and never been lifted.My shiness makes sure that I will never tell a girl about this fetish until I realize she really loves me, and I am sure that ,when this happens, we will help each other to be sexually happy.That is the idea every one who is suffering from l&c should have in his mind.
Don't be depressed,we are not hurting anybody with this.

(sorry for my English if mistakes)

winniethebeer · June 1st, 2009, 02:19

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Originally Posted by Eron

When I see a sexy girl walking on the street, the first thing I say to myself is "would love to jump on her back" .Maybe I am obsessed with this fetish, but I love it.

tinkuthewimp · June 26th, 2009, 06:35

well i cant call it depressing but its really addictive, i am really addicted to it and daily spend a lot of time looking for videos and pics of lift and carry ,sometimes i do get frustrated as till date i have not been able to get a real lift and possibly i will never be able to get one , but anyways it is a real nice fetish

lorinsilvia · July 1st, 2009, 15:00

It really helped when I found out that I wasn't the only person who had this particular fetish. The internet really opened my eyes.

For me, L&C is something that turns me on besides your average sexual things. Compare it to somebody who gets a kick out of eating grass. He still enjoys other things, but the grass is a "bonus". On the other hand, that's not going to be something he'll announce to the world.

motive · July 1st, 2009, 16:31

l&c especially piggyback ride makes me smile

Parts of females are better than l&c for me. ( big butts, big boobs, nice legs, nice lips etc..)
I dont like domination thing. It's dangerous to think. It can cause depress.
l&c is bonus for me

Edited to change word. Phoneman

phoneman · July 6th, 2009, 03:18

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Originally Posted by motive

l&c especially piggyback ride makes me smile

its kinda lovely r*pe

Parts of females are better than l&c for me. ( big butts, big boobs, nice legs, nice lips etc..)
I dont like domination thing. It's dangerous to think. It can cause depress.
l&c is bonus for me

I have an incredibly hard time with the analogy to r*pe. I do not even like the word used here. I have edited the comment to remove the "a" and replace it.

Does the poster know what r*pe is? It is an act of ugly force and domination. He can have his opinion, but I could not disagree more with any statement that uses the word lovely before such an incredibly vile act.

Note: The poster has had his own account terminated for personal reasons having nothing to do with this.

tjw1971 · July 1st, 2009, 20:05

I don't think it's limited to L&C stuff, by any means, either. Whatever "odd interest" you can imagine, it's almost certainly not so unique, you're the only person in the world who has ever thought about it or desired it.

The problem is, these interests aren't common enough that you're likely to run into others who share them in your small circle of "friends". Traditionally, that meant a lot of people went around falsely believing they were stuck with some strange interest that NOBODY else would ever really understand.

On the net, though, people feel anonymous enough so they can talk about things they wouldn't ordinarily share with strangers. You couple that with the vastly greater ability it gives a person to seek out others with common interests, and you're guaranteed to learn you're not alone in something!

With L&C though, in particular? I think you can actually "sell" a lot of people on at least a basic understanding of why it could be a "turn on" and not really that "weird". Plenty of guys out there like athletic women, right? And to a lesser extent, you can find a fair number of competitive women out there who like showing off that they're "stronger than the average woman". L&C, in those contexts, just seems like a component of those interests.

The biggest "barrier" to L&C acceptance is simple ignorance that it exists! I think a lot of women out there would have no problem offering a guy a piggyback ride or what-not, somewhat regularly even, if they simply knew the guy found it a turn-on. (I bet most times when someone says they tried this but the women was "disturbed" by it - it has MUCH more to do with how the guy came across. EG. Most women are still turned on by knowing a guy is physically strong and healthy, so they're not going to care much for a guy emphasizing how pathetic and weak he is compared to her.)

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Originally Posted by lorinsilvia

It really helped when I found out that I wasn't the only person who had this particular fetish. The internet really opened my eyes.

For me, L&C is something that turns me on besides your average sexual things. Compare it to somebody who gets a kick out of eating grass. He still enjoys other things, but the grass is a "bonus". On the other hand, that's not going to be something he'll announce to the world.

May 31st, 2009, 19:03	#4
Eron VIP Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 110 : 1 For This Post 149 Total	When I see a sexy girl walking on the street, the first thing I say to myself is "would love to jump on her back" .Maybe I am obsessed with this fetish, but I love it.I think it must not be a reason for being depressed,even if you need it to "get turned on". It would be a problem ONLY if you think it's a problem and you(or others) suffer from it. I know about what i am saying to you, I was depressed because of this some years ago.When I was about 15,I thought I was the only person in the world with this "interest" and thought every time of being lifted by girls I liked.I never asked them to, and today I am 24 and never been lifted.My shiness makes sure that I will never tell a girl about this fetish until I realize she really loves me, and I am sure that ,when this happens, we will help each other to be sexually happy.That is the idea every one who is suffering from l&c should have in his mind. Don't be depressed,we are not hurting anybody with this. (sorry for my English if mistakes) Last edited by Eron; May 31st, 2009 at 19:07.

July 1st, 2009, 16:31	#8
motive STANDARD Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 158 : 0 For This Post 41 Total	l&c especially piggyback ride makes me smile Parts of females are better than l&c for me. ( big butts, big boobs, nice legs, nice lips etc..) I dont like domination thing. It's dangerous to think. It can cause depress. l&c is bonus for me Edited to change word. Phoneman Last edited by motive; August 15th, 2009 at 14:33.

May 24th, 2009, 01:04	#1
toadpimp STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 62 : 0 For This Post 26 Total	I get very depressed sometimes. Especially these days, as I am going through a bad break up. A few thoughts: - a fetish was technically defined as something without which one can NOT get turned on at all. This has evolved now, of course, but it is worth thinking about. Do you need L&C or is it just a nice plus? - I get depressed because sometimes I find myself needing it. Not always, but it always enhances the experience. And sometimes it needs to salvage the experience, if you know what I mean. - I do wish I did not have this fetish. Not when I am enjoying it, but at other times when I feel it takes away from what some might call a "normal" lifestyle. - I had a huge fight with my ex GF when another guy picked her up for a picture. For me, that is a sexual experience, for her it was just a photograph! It was part of our break-up! I have analysed it at several levels, and even suspect I know how it all began (3rd grade, I picked up a girl I liked when another guy dared me... she moved away later and I never forgot her!). My conclusion has always been that I need to exercise self-control. Perhaps this is an addiction? Or is it a part of what makes me? The answer, for me, would be whether the roots of this are genetic or not. Clearly I am choosing women based on a subconscious criterion involving l&c (I always go for petite, light women because I like MF lifting). Anyway, sorry for the long response. It is something I have given a lot of thought, and not something that I have completely accepted about myself.

June 26th, 2009, 06:35	#6
tinkuthewimp STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 62 : 0 For This Post 84 Total	well i cant call it depressing but its really addictive, i am really addicted to it and daily spend a lot of time looking for videos and pics of lift and carry ,sometimes i do get frustrated as till date i have not been able to get a real lift and possibly i will never be able to get one , but anyways it is a real nice fetish

July 1st, 2009, 15:00	#7
lorinsilvia STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 37 : 0 For This Post 2 Total	It really helped when I found out that I wasn't the only person who had this particular fetish. The internet really opened my eyes. For me, L&C is something that turns me on besides your average sexual things. Compare it to somebody who gets a kick out of eating grass. He still enjoys other things, but the grass is a "bonus". On the other hand, that's not going to be something he'll announce to the world.